Okay. Be honest. When you first read this title, Your First Time, were you thinking this article was going to be about sex? Especially given that one of the services offered here at The Center for Growth is sex therapy, I can’t say I blame you! What we are actually going to be talking about here is…your first time in therapy.
Many years ago, the idea of going to therapy could have conjured up all kinds of distorted beliefs such as “I am not crazy” or imagining that when a person goes to therapy for the first time, they will be greeted by an old guy with gray hair, a long beard, and British accent that will ask you to lie on a couch and coerce you into disclosing your inner most thoughts without even knowing each other. Well, I am happy to tell you that, for the most part, that type of treatment is not part of the mainstream style of “therapy” today. What to realistically expect when you come to therapy for the first time and how to make the experience comfortable and beneficial for you is the actual premise of this article.
All kidding aside, deciding to come to therapy is no easy task. It involves finding the right person or treatment center, committing time and financial resources to the process, and being reading to make changes in your life. However, for some people, one of the greatest barriers to seeing a therapist is deciding to let someone into their personal life and inner thoughts, which can be scary at first. But, when circumstances in your life have become so overwhelming or painful, it is a relief to find someone to talk and trust that can also maintain objectivity. After all, we all deserve to live happy, fulfilling lives and if going to therapy can help someone achieve this, it is an investment that can really pay off!
Once you have a therapist picked out, whether you were referred by someone else or found us on Google, here are some tips to help your first session go more smoothly:
- The big “first” session- The goal of the first session is to make you feel comfortable and to learn from you what the reasons are that you are seeking therapy. This is an opportunity for you to ask questions about your therapist’s credentials, their therapeutic approach, and feel out their personality to see if they are the right fit for you. In the first session, we will talk about how to best help you with the issues that you came in with and how we can work with you to reorganize thinking so you can move on in a more meaningful, intentional way. It is also nice to have someone who is professional, objective, and non-judgmental to be by your side while you navigate the changes you want to make in your life. Also, in the first session, some of the required paperwork will be completed.
- Connection- As you begin to embark on this new journey of learning how to solve your problems and feel good about yourself, it is important to feel safe and trusting of the change process. The more honest and vulnerable you can be in this non-judgmental zone, the greater the benefit you will go home with. Connection is very important in helping you open up to your therapist, such as a best-friend or coach. The Center for Growth is dedicated to matching all of our clients with the right therapist. If at the end of your first session, you do not feel a connection with your therapist, we will assign you to another one for an initial session at little or no charge.
- We will keep your secrets- It is comforting to know that what you confide in with a professional therapist stays confidential. With few legal exceptions (i.e. being suicidal, abuse), everything you say in a session will stay there. Our goal is to help you feel safe doing the mental, emotional, and sometimes physical work needed to help transform you from the person you were to the person you want to be so brace yourself for the journey!
- Time- Each individual and couples sessions are 53 minutes long. The amount of time to work through issues and feel a meaningful shift in yourself is about 8-10 sessions. However, your therapeutic experience could be longer or shorter depending on your specific needs and the pace you need to feel like you are on the right path.
- Relationship practice- Most people come to therapy because their relationships are negatively affected by their behavior, their challenges with communicating with people close to them, or by other emotional difficulties. In the therapy room, you are with another “live” person where you can practice interpersonal skills such as sharing feelings, developing coping skills, or learning how to communicate more effectively utilizing the therapist’s interaction and responses as a tool for helping you improve in these areas. Like any other relationship in your life, it takes time to build the trust and rapport needed for these “learning opportunities.” to occur. For example, we may be told something over and over again by our loved ones, but when we hear a similar point from an objective third party, we may be more ready to take it in and try something new.
- Self-care- Seeing a therapist is a form of self-care in that it allows for at least one hour a week for you to focus on yourself and not have to worry about dividing your attention between yourself and another person. Although the therapist does interact with you, or why go there, the focus of the session is expected to be on you and your individual goals and not the needs of the therapist themselves.
Your first time in therapy can clearly be scary, but the long-term rewards are worth it. I like to think of the money and time that is spent on therapy as an investment into yourself, which is absolutely true! If after reading this tip, you are still unclear about how going to therapy will benefit you and/or your relationship, I encourage you to make a list of what the perceived advantages and disadvantages are. Be honest with yourself. Always know, that you matter and no one, even a therapist, can't make you do what you are not ready for.
If you are willing to take the risk of a possible life-enhancing experience, you can call The Center for Growth at 215-922-LOVE to schedule an appointment.
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What should a person know about their first time in therapy?
Here are a few things that a person should know about their first time in therapy:
- It's normal to feel nervous or anxious about starting therapy. Many people find it helpful to remind themselves that seeking therapy is a positive step towards self-improvement.
- It's important to find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. This may take some time, so don't be discouraged if your first therapist isn't the right fit.
- Be prepared to discuss your thoughts and feelings honestly and openly. This is the best way to get the most out of therapy.
- Therapy is a process and it may take time to see progress. Be patient with yourself and trust the process.
- You should discuss any concerns or questions you may have with your therapist. They are there to help and support you.
- It's also important to be aware that some therapist/client relationship may not work out, and that's okay. It's important to find a therapist that you feel comfortable with and can make progress with.
Therapy can be a valuable tool for personal growth and change. It can help individuals to understand themselves better and develop effective strategies for dealing with life's challenges.
You can self schedule an in-person or virtual therapy session at the Center for Growth by calling (215) 922- LOVE (5683) x 100.
Our Guarantee: If after your first session you are not sold that you are working with the right therapist, do not hesitate to call our intake line at 215 922 5683 x 100 or Alex at (267) 324-9564 and ask to be rescheduled with another therapist. The choice of how you want to proceed is yours. Our only goal is to support you in becoming the best you possible.
For your convenience, we have brick and mortar offices and work with clients virtually in Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, New Jersey, New Mexico, Pennsylvania, and Virginia.
Physical Therapy Office Locations:
Ocean City Therapy Office 360 West Ave, Floor 1, Ocean City, NJ 08226
Mechanicsville Therapy Office 9044 Mann Drive, Mechanicsville Virginia, 23116
Society Hill Therapy Office 233 S. 6th Street, C-33, Philadelphia PA 19106
Art Museum / Fairmount Therapy Office 2401 Pennsylvania Ave, Suite 1a2, Philadelphia PA 19130
Providence Therapy Office 173 Waterman St. Providence, RI 02906
Fayetteville Therapy Office 101 Devant Street #606, Fayetteville GA 30214
Santa Fe Therapy Office, 2204 B Brothers Road, Santa Fe, New Mexico, 87505
Telemedicine Therapy Locations: We have therapists who are licensed to work in Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, New Jersey, New Mexico, Pennsylvania and Virginia and Pennsylvania
Therapy Services Offered in Fayetteville, Ocean City, Mechanicsville, Philadelphia, Providence, Santa Fe:
Individual Counseling and therapy
Couples Counseling and marriage counseling
Teen Therapy and Adolescent Therapy and tweens and child counseling
Family Therapy and multi-generational counseling
Art Therapy and Counseling no art skills needed
ADHD Therapy and ADD, Dyslexia, Autism, Tourettes counseling
Anxiety, Panic, OCD Therapy and worry and fear support
Breaking the cycle of Codependency and being your own person
Overcoming Chronic Illness and Chronic Pain .
Depression Therapy and sadness, gloom, and upset support
Functional Neurological Disorder (FND) Therapy is a particular style of therapy designed for people with problems affecting their nervous system, how the brain and body send and receive signals.
Grief Therapy and loss, End of A Relationship, rejections, pregnancy and loss and therapy
Mindfulness Based Therapy and spirituality based therapy
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery child of, parent of, spouse of, sibling of a narcissist.
Sex Therapy and sexual function & dysfunction, sex addiction, sexual orientation and gender identity support
Trauma Therapy both emotional and sexual abuse, complex trauma, PTSD counseling
Divorce support
Affairs, Infidelity, Unfaithful, Cheating counseling
Parenting therapy
Personality disorder treatments Narcissist, Borderline, Histrionic
Setting Boundaries and identifying ones own Core Beliefs
Just name some of the Mental Health issues that we work with. Our goal is to help you Change and Achieve Your Dreams
