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When to End a Relationship - Is your relationship worth saving? While most people will have an opinion about whether you and your partner should stay together, ultimately, the answer to that question is an intensely personal decision that only you can answer, since you will have to live with the consequences. With that being said, there are some general guidelines as to when a relationship is not worth saving.
1.) Your partner wants to end the relationship. No matter how much potential you see in the relationship, or how much you love your partner, you can not ‘fix’ the relationship without him/her. Relationships take two people.
When this is the scenario, we strongly encourage you to let go. Prior to letting go, it may be to your benefit to have one last conversation with your partner where you state your perspective. In some situation you might be able to ‘win’ him/her over. However, be careful. Too much persuasion on your end runs the risk of putting yourself in an overly compromised situation. If you have to beg to get your partner to take you back, then you may be over-giving, and your partner over-taking. This could result in your partner acting selfishly, not because she/he is a bad person, but rather because you over-gave. Balance in a relationship also means boundaries. When someone you love is not treating you well, step back and observe how you feel. Explore within yourself why you want to spend time with someone who is not treating you well. Does it really feel good? Or are you simply wanting them out of force of habit? Or due to memories of what used to be?
2.) Your partner is emotionally, sexually or physically violent towards you, and/or your child. Extreme situations such as violent rapes or broken bones are easier to recognize. To report abuse, contact the police 911. If you are unsure if you meet the criteria of an ‘abuse victim’ or if you are scared, professional help is available.
The Domestic Violence Hotline http://www.ndvh.org 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and/or a rape hotline.
Women Against Rape http://www.woar.org (215) 985 – 3333
Most people who are living with an abuser or lived with an abusive person benefit from the support of a therapist. No one should go through this alone.
Sometimes, motivated partners are able to change. However, it is rare for partners to change without a lot of help. Working with a therapist can help you better understand if your partner is capable of change, or if it's time to exit the relationship.
Resources for the Abuser
Sexual abusers in Philadelphia who want help can contact: Joseph J. Peters http://www.jjp.org (215) 701-1560
Physical abusers who want help can contact: The Center for Family Services http://www.centerffs.org : (856) 964-7378
Still want to talk with a relationship expert about when to end a relationship? Call one of our Couples Therapists to schedule a session at 215-922-5683 Ext 100. We offer therapy in Society Hill, Philadelphia, PA, Ocean City, NJ, Mechanicsville, VA, and Santa Fe, NM. We also offer virtual therapy in Georgia and Florida.
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Ending a relationship can be a difficult decision, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer as to when it is appropriate to do so. However, there are some general signs that a relationship may not be healthy or sustainable, and that it may be time to consider ending it.
- Lack of trust or communication: If you and your partner are unable to trust or communicate effectively with each other, it can be very difficult to build and maintain a healthy relationship.
- Constant conflicts: If you and your partner are constantly fighting, it can be a sign that you have different goals, values, or expectations for the relationship, and that it may be difficult for you to reconcile these differences.
- Lack of emotional intimacy: If you and your partner do not feel emotionally connected to one another, it can be hard to build a strong and lasting bond.
- Persistent feelings of unhappiness: If you consistently feel unhappy in your relationship, it may be time to reevaluate whether it is meeting your emotional and mental needs.
- Abusive behavior: If your partner is physically, emotionally, or verbally abusive, it is important to end the relationship as soon as possible for your safety.
It is important to remember that ending a relationship can be a difficult and emotional process, and it is important to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist as you navigate this decision. It is also important to be clear and respectful when ending a relationship, and to give your partner the opportunity to express their feelings and to process the ending of the relationship.
