Sex Therapy: Discovering The Female G-Spot
What is the G-Spot?
The G-spot (shorthand for the Grafenberg spot, and also known as the urethral sponge) is a bean-shaped soft mass of tissue that swells from the size of a dime (or smaller) to the size of a half-dollar (or larger) when stimulated. Through vasocongestion, this sponge can become engorged with blood, swell and become discernable to the touch. It is derived from the same tissue that comprises the male prostate gland.
Where is the G-Spot Located?
The G-spot is located beyond the anterior wall of the vagina, one to three inches from the vaginal entrance, halfway between the pubic bone and the cervix (see diagram below). It contains clusters of nerve-endings, blood vessels, glands and ducts that cover the urethra on all sides. It can be felt and stimulated through the vaginal wall. The G-spot is not part of the vaginal wall itself, but instead lies behind it. When searching for this spot, don’t search on the anterior vaginal wall, but through it.
Why Stimulate the G-Spot?
Because the G-spot is derived from the same tissue that comprises the male prostate, there can be no question that all females have one. There is a question, however, whether all females are sensitive to its stimulation. Some women find G-spot stimulation intensely arousing (likening it to stimulation of the prostate gland in men), while others find such stimulation painful. Others still find it neutral, neither enjoyable nor painful. For women who do have G-spot sensitivity, some report having orgasms from G-spot stimulation alone (called vaginal, A-frame, urethral or uterine orgasms), while others enjoy G-spot stimulation as an accompaniment to oral sex, or enjoy G-spot stimulation during vaginal-penile intercourse…enhancing pleasure and intensity of orgasm.
How to Stimulate the G-Spot.
After wetting your latex-covered fingers with saliva or a water-based lubricant, slowly and gently insert two fingers (pointer and middle) into your partner’s vagina. Once both of you are feeling comfortable, and your fingers are fully inserted, curl your fingers upwards, and begin making the “come hither” movement firmly with your fingers. This motion allows you to stimulate (stroke, massage, tap, rub) her G-spot. Let her level of excitement guide your movements. Talk with her, and ask her how different forms of touch feel. Remember that the G-spot responds to pressure rather than touch. Gentle stroking it is not likely to stimulate it. As one person put it, it’s more like massaging a pea under a mattress; one has to compress the flesh to find it. You’ll know when you’ve found the spot because it has the texture of wrinkled skin, whereas the surrounding tissue feels smooth and tight. Try these positions to locate and stimulate the G-spot:
Woman on her back with her knees bent and legs spread as her partner, facing her, inserts the middle and pointer fingers into her vagina, palm up, then moves the fingers toward his/her palm in a “come here” motion.
Woman sits on her knees with her elbows against the bed or other surface, buttocks in the air, as her partner behind her inserts two fingers into her vagina, palm down, then moves them downward toward the palm in a “bye bye” motion.
A woman could locate her own G-spot using either of these methods, or by sitting on the toilet, though using a vibrator or dildo made specifically to stimulate the G spot may prove to be easier and more effective.
During vaginal intercourse, a woman’s G-spot is more likely to be stimulated if her partner is penetrating her vagina from behind, though placing her legs on her partner’s shoulders in the missionary position might help.
For the adventurous and advanced couple (already successful at locating the G-spot and comfortable with this technique), you might want to try exploring other parts of her vaginal walls.
The partner, instead of using his/her pointer and middle fingers to locate the G-spot will now use the pointer finger and thumb to pull up some tissue from the vaginal walls, (a very light pinch) and rub it between her/his finger and thumb. You must be extremely soft and gentle, as the vaginal walls are sensitive, and it’s best to start too soft than too hard. Most women have never felt this sensation before, and while indescribable, is enjoyable. As you touch her vaginal walls, always give her two different forms of touch and ask her which one she likes better.
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