The adult version of pillow fighting.
When was the last time you engaged in a pillow fight? Was it when your kids were little? Or maybe when you were 6 years old? Sadly, this is a standard answer. Most adults seem to have forgotten how much fun it is to play. And yet, almost everyone universally loved engaging in a good pillow fight. Pillow fights are an adrenaline rush and the strongest or the most cunning wins Pillow fights can be so much fun.
To enjoy pillow fighting as an adult, you must follow a few basic rules. The first is don’t hit too hard. As an adult you are pretty strong. Only hit major body parts. Avoid the face, head, and fingers. The other is: allow your partner to win some times. Remember, the goal is play. It's not about winning. Imagine when you were a parent or Imagine when your kids were little and you were playing with them. You didn't want to cremate them every time. Sometimes you wanted to let the little kids think that they were winning. When you're pillow fighting with your partner, you need to let them win. Okay. maybe they're going to grab the pillow out of your hands and now they're going to have your hands pinned down behind you. That could lead to really hot sex. You have a lot of options about how to proceed from here. The point is simple. Get playful in the bedroom.
A great way to introduce pillow fighting is, let's say you and your partner are starting to sext a little bit and they're saying something along the lines of, oh, I'm hoping for some snuggles or cuddles, or they start sending racy texts abd they are telling you about how they want to lick your hot cock, simply respond by saying “Pillow Fight!”. This will immediately change the mood, and now you can introduce the theme of pillow fighting. Or, if you're actually in the bedroom, and they're starting to do something sexual with you, you can break the mood and hand them a pillow, take a pillow yourself, and just be like, pillow fight, and just give them a good bonk.
They might be a little startled at first, but all you have to do is do use the pillow in a really playful manner and the other person will typically burst out laughing. Pillow fights are just good clean goofy fun. What we are going after is fun, and playful behavior. We are purposefully shifting the mood from a heavy, intense sexual scene to something light. The real goal is to create a wider range of emotions in the bedroom. Sometimes sex is supposed to be hot, or romantic and sometimes it should be sad, playful or funny. Pillow fights can help build emotional connection, increase the adrenaline and change up the sexual habits that you typically engage in week after week. The goal is to mix up your sexual patterns so that your partner never knows quite what to expect.
Now you've started with the pillows and you are hitting each, the actual pillow fight won’t last too long. If you're lucky, you can start fake chasing them into a different room, or maybe they're chasing you. The goal is to maneuver them in a chase scene out of the bedroom.
The purpose of trying to shift rooms is that you want to get your partner out of the habit of assuming sex play only happens in the bedroom. You have an entire house to play in and each room lends itself to a different set of possibilities. By chasing each other in a pillow fight, you might find yourself in the bathroom, kitchen or living room. Again, the goal is to just break habits while having fun together. Back to the pillow fight: once the two of you are running around, whoever is winning is automatically the one in charge, also known as the dominant role. All you need to do is say to the other person “I am going to keep going, unless you do “X” behavior. “I'm going to keep going unless you remove your unswear, shoes or shirt”. Maybe it’s an article of clothing or some sexual behavior. It could even be getting you a glass of water. This allows you to naturally introduce the concept of power play. if you're losing the pillow fight, you could certainly stop and pretend to be a little bit more scared than you really are. You might say something along the lines of “Wait, stop. Don't hit me. What if I gave you my underwear or like, stop, don't hit me. What if I gave you a blow job? You can insert whatever sexual act you enjoy doing. By offering a specific suggestion, they can simply accept it, or change it at will.
It's a lot of fun. Again, a couple of basic rules is when you're using the pillow, don't hit too hard, let your partner win sometimes, and if you are winning at times you can drop the pillow and just pin their arms down. This can lead to really hot sex.
My point is simple: get playful in the bedroom. It's a lot of fun.
